Do You Know What’s Really Driving Your Anger?

Anger is always a secondary emotion – a response to something deeper going on inside of you.

Anger typically comes from three specific sources.
This anger assessment will help you identify which specific source is your hot-button.

Answer the questions below as honestly as you can.

At the end you’ll get a read-out that explains your unique source of anger.

I get angry or frustrated when

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Often
Empowerment or Control

Based on your answers it seems like your anger starts when your empowerment and control are threatened.

Does this mean I'm a control freak? Maybe. But not necessarily. The bigger possibility is that at some point in your life a significant event threatened your personal empowerment or control. Now, when you face situations that touch on that sensitive spot your subconscious kicks in, causing you to feel threatened. Your anger appears to show you something is bothering you. Anger is actually a gift in that way!

Connection and Esteem

Based on your answers it seems like your anger (or you may prefer to call it “frustration”) starts when your connection with others or your self-esteem are threatened.

Does this mean I’m insecure? Maybe. But not necessarily. The bigger possibility is that at some point in your life a significant event threatened your connection, or feeling of value or acceptance, from others. Now, when you face situations that touch on that sensitive spot your subconscious kicks in, causing you to feel threatened. Your anger/frustration appears to show you something is bothering you. Anger and frustration are actually a gift in that way!

Safety and Security

Based on your answers it seems like your anger starts when safety and security are threatened.

Does this mean I have a serious problem? Not necessarily. The bigger possibility is that at some point in your life a significant event threatened your sense of emotional, physical, or financial security, or your felt alone, like no one was watching out for you. Now, when you face situations that touch on that sensitive spot your subconscious kicks in, causing you to feel threatened. Your anger appears to show you something is bothering you. Anger is actually a gift in that way!

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